Don't Despair, She Says

I've made it through the introduction of The Superior Wife Syndrome, and I'm now convinced that Ms. Rubenstein has been living in my walk-in closet, basing her entire book on my husband and I.

So far, this book couldn't be more on-point or relevant to our marriage.

I chose to look at this as a positive. Obviously there are lots and lots of women who are going through the same thing as me... a growing resentment of and a plummeting respect for the men they fell in love with.

Although the author warns readers who meet the description of a Superior Wife not to despair, I've already begun to do so.

And here's why...

Toward the end of the introduction, the author says that I can rehabilitate my marriage, but that it will have to be a team effort - that I'll have to convince my husband of the importance of that rehabilitation and get him to participate.

But earlier in the intro she explains that the husbands in these marriages don't typically own up to their role in the creation of the Superior-Inferior dynamic. I'd definitely say my betrothed would fall into this category of denial.

So how am I supposed to convince him that he needs to do more while I do less, if he doesn't even agree that he's doing less in the first place.

I hope she has some good suggestions for me... I am all ears. Or eyes, rather. I didn't buy the book on tape. Maybe I should have.